Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Borderline personality disorder is a serious mental illness centered on a person’s inability to manage their emotions and the tendency to view things in the extreme. It can have a negative effect on interpersonal relationships because of its ongoing patterns of unstable moods and impulsive actions and behaviors. Like many other personality disorders, someone can be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder along with other disorders, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance and/or alcohol abuse, which come with additional symptoms and effects. 

Those who have borderline personality disorder experience frequent emotional and relational instability. Their interests and values can change quickly and extreme shifts in feelings can lead to intense and rocky relationships. It is common to see problems with romantic relationships, friendships, and issues within the workplace. The most common behaviors and symptoms of borderline personality disorder include:

• Ongoing feelings of emptiness: feeling “empty” or numb is normal for those with borderline personality disorder. Often, even when these individuals try to shake the feeling with food, sex, alcohol, or drugs, nothing feels truly satisfying.  
• Fear of abandonment: an intense fear of abandonment can lead to real or imagined separation or rejection from others. It also may result in efforts to avoid abandonment, such as rapidly initiating intimate relationships and cutting off communication with someone in anticipation of being abandoned (whether this threat is real or perceived).
• Patterns of unstable and intense relationships: those with borderline personality disorder experience rapid, intense shifts in relationships. They might adore someone in one moment and suddenly finding that same person cruel in the next. This can also include ending positive relationships without a significant reason.
• Shifting Self-Image: abrupt changes in self-identity and self-image, including shifts in goals, and values is typical for those with borderline personality disorder. One might even see themselves as a bad person or non-existent.
• Mood swings: short- and long-term mood swings, including intense happiness, irritability, shame, sadness and/or anxiety can come quickly and intensely for those with borderline personality disorder. Unlike the emotional mood swings of anxiety and depression, however, these mood swings pass relatively fast lasting for a few hours or minutes.
• Risky Behavior: experiencing impulsive and risky behavior, such as drug use, gambling, reckless driving, and/or sabotaging success.
• Intense anger: those with borderline personality disorder might frequently lose their  temper and experience extreme rage at themselves or others. Screaming, throwing things, and engaging in physical fights is typical.
• Feelings of dissociation:, being cut off from oneself, seeing oneself from outside one’s body, losing touch with reality, and feeling foggy and spaced out, is characteristic of borderline personality disorder. 
• Self-harm: threats of self harm and suicidal thoughts are common in people with borderline personality disorder and might occur in response to fear of separation or perceived rejection.

These symptoms can be triggered by seemingly ordinary events, such as becoming distressed while traveling to work or when being separated from someone else for a short period of time. It is important to note that not everyone with borderline personality disorder will experience every symptom. In order to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, a person must show at least five of the above symptoms, but some individuals will experience less than others. Someone who is consistently experiencing one or more of these borderline personality disorder symptoms should talk to their doctor or mental health care provider.

As is the case with other mental health conditions, the causes of borderline personality disorder aren’t completely understood. While the exact cause of this mental health condition is unknown, research has shown that this disorder occurs equally in men and women, and there are some genetic, familial, and social risk factors that can play a role, including:

Genetics

Personality disorders are more common in people who have a first-degree relative with the condition, such as a parent or sibling. However, just because someone has family members with a history of borderline personality disorder doesn’t mean that everyone in the family will develop it. Most people who have borderline personality disorder in their family history will never actually develop it. 

Brain structure

There are biological differences in those that have the disorder, including physical changes to their brains. Any abnormalities in the structure or functions of the brain may increase the risk for borderline personality disorder.

Environmental factors

Beyond biology and family history, environmental factors can contribute to developing borderline personality disorder as well. Childhood sexual, physical, or emotional abuse, a real or imagined fear of abandonment in childhood or adolescence, and trauma or unstable family life at a young age can play a role.

It is important to note that risk factors are not the same as a cause — just because a person experiences some of the risk factors does not mean they will develop borderline personality disorder. In fact, just as many people develop the disorder without any risk factors.

The first step in treating borderline personality disorder is getting diagnosed. You can either speak to your primary care doctor to request a referral for a therapist or psychiatrist, or start today by giving a borderline personality disorder assessment or online therapy a try. 

The diagnosis process consists of a therapist asking you thorough BPD screening questions about your current symptoms and emotional state and helping to determine if you have borderline personality disorder. Only a licensed professional can make an official diagnosis.